Gottman Four Horsemen Coaching

Understand the four communication patterns that quietly predict a relationship’s end — and learn to catch them before they take over.

Psychologist John Gottman found that most relationship breakdowns follow four recognizable patterns: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. They tend to show up gradually, in ordinary arguments, long before either partner would call the relationship “in trouble.”

Read the full breakdown of The Gottman Four Horsemen →

Soil Health’s couples coaching helps you recognize these patterns as they happen — in your own words, in your own conflicts — and practice responding differently. Through voice conversations with an AI coach, each partner can work through what’s coming up individually, or together, at a pace that doesn’t require either of you to be the “reasonable one.”

There’s no diagnosis and no scorekeeping. Just a private space to slow down a familiar fight, notice which of the four horsemen showed up, and try a different response next time.

Curious where your own patterns come from? Our individual coaching looks at the core beliefs behind how you show up in conflict, on your own.